Just after 8 p.m. on a December night in 2019, Robin Rinaldi-Esta composed a private Facebook message, took a deep breath, and pressed âsend.â
âI wrote, âI think you are my brother. You look exactly like my Dad,ââ remembers Rinaldi-Esta.
Through a mutual Facebook friend, Rinaldi-Esta noticed a person by the name of Michael Carmine Rinaldiâand noted the similarity to her fatherâs name, Carmine Rinaldi.
When Robinâs husband, Dan Esta, saw Rinaldiâs photo, he enlarged the photo on the computer screen. âRobin,â he said, âwho does this look like?â
âOh my God, that looks like my father!â exclaimed Rinald-Esta. Since her father passed away five years previous, Rinaldi-Esta could no longer ask him, but the thought of reaching out to this familiar-looking stranger was intimidating, too. âFor a long time, I was afraid to contact [Michael] because you never know how people are going to react,â she said. âThey might not want to be bothered.â
After Rinaldi-Esta messaged Michael Rinaldi, she tried to prepare herself for how to handle the outcome. On one hand, a response could be life-changing. Even worse, what if he decided not to answer?
But Michael Rinaldi did answer. Texting back and forth, they both agreed they were, in fact, half-brother and half-sister â both children of Carmine Rinaldi.
By piecing together details from their past, they figured out that their father had been married to Michaelâs mother, had three children (Michael has two sisters), then divorced Michaelâs mother. He left the family when Michael was only 11, and went on to marry Robinâs mother and raise Robin. She grew up never realizing her father had any other children.
âIn those days, they didnât talk about divorce and all that stuff,â says Rinaldi-Esta. Everything was a big secret. The kids werenât privy to all that information.â
At the time of this storyâs printing, Michael Rinaldi was unavailable to speak to Sun Day as he was caring for an ill relative, but his wife Ruth Renaldi remembers the night the Facebook message arrived in her husbandâs inbox.
âHe read the message from Robin at 9:30 at night,â remembers Ruth. âThen neither one of us could sleep!â
âYouâve gotta be kiddingâ
As Michael and Robin got to know each other, they learned that both of them had long careers as realtors, just like their father. In fact, though they never worked for the same real estate company at the same time, they had come across each other through real estate deals.
âI talked to him on the phone a couple times, doing some deals, and Iâd say, âAre you sure we arenât related?â Heâd say, âNo,â and weâd laugh. Iâd say, âDo a good job at real estate, because it reflects on my name, too!â I was in business in Cary/Crystal Lake, he was in Lake Zurich/Barrington. We had done business together, but it was always on the phone.â
The biggest shock came when Robin asked Michael where he lived. He told her Del Webb.
Robin was flabbergasted. âGet out of here,â she said in disbelief.
Ruth remembers that moment as well. âWhen [Robin] told us she lived in Del Webb, itâs like ⌠youâve gotta be kidding. I looked at the Del Webb directory and find out weâre living exactly a mile away. Weâve walked past their house!â
Since discovering each other, Robin and Michael have met in person several times, either in each otherâs homes or at Jamesonâs Charhouse.
âWhen I met him face to face, I couldnât take my eyes off of him,â says Robin. âHe walks like Dad, they both have a dimple in their chin. So much alike! Itâs amazing.â
Ruth says meeting Robin has brought about a positive change in her husband.
âHe always said he didnât care where his father was, because his father left him when he was 11. As he got older, he thought, âIâve become a good manâI don’t need to find him.â Even though he said he didnât want [to know about his Dad], it made a difference for [Robin] to reach out.â
Ruth believes Michael has gotten some closure now that Robin has been able to tell him things about their father that he didnât know.
âI feel bad, because I had a dad and he didnât,â says Robin. âI feel like he got cheated. But he tells me, âDonât feel bad. Itâs not your fault.â Heâs come to terms with it, I guess.â
âItâs so nice to know I have a brother,â says Rinaldi-Esta. âIt feels so comfortable. I feel like Iâve known him forever.â
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