Q. I’m writing to seek your expert advice on behalf of my beloved aunt. She’s facing isolation and loneliness during the summer months, especially as her immediate family spends most of the summer at their lake home in Michigan. She has expressed feeling isolated and lonely, and not just because her family is away for the summer. Many of her other friends are also away on vacation, and the usual community programs she attends are on summer hiatus. As a result, she finds herself spending long stretches of time alone, which negatively affects her mood and overall happiness.
While her family is away at their lake home, I’ve agreed to step in to oversee my aunt’s health and well-being. I live about an hour away and have a full-time job, so as much as I would like to, I can’t drop in every day to check-in. I am eager to help my aunt combat this sense of isolation and make the most of her summer. She has always been an avid reader and enjoys creative pursuits, such as knitting. My aunt is not tech-savvy, but I can assist her with technology during my visits. Do you have any ideas on how I can engage with her remotely and foster a sense of connection?
A. I appreciate your sincere concern about your aging aunt’s isolation during the summer months. Your dedication to supporting her well-being is commendable and I’m sure it means the world to your beloved aunt. I would be happy to provide some recommendations and strategies to help her cope with her situation.
Although her family is away and her usual go-to groups are on break for the summer, summer offers other activities and avenues that your aunt can explore to stay engaged. Given her interests in reading and creative pursuits, she could consider joining local book clubs, art classes, or crafting groups. These community-based activities provide opportunities to connect with like-minded individuals who share her passions. Check with her local library, craft stores, and community centers for events and activities that pertain to your aunt’s interests and hobbies. Then, encourage your aunt to explore these options and make new connections this summer.
Technology is another valuable tool for reducing isolation and fostering social connections. While your aunt may not be tech-savvy, there are user-friendly apps and online platforms that can be helpful. Consider introducing her to video chat applications, such as FaceTime or Meet, which would allow her to stay connected with her family at their lake home. Many local libraries offer free classes on learning to use devices, such as a smartphone or tablet. Check with her local library to see what’s available.
Finally, you play a significant role in supporting your aunt. Although your schedule is busy, try to pick a few dates for the remainder of the summer when you can stop in for a longer visit. During these visits, plan something fun to do, such as going out for ice cream or taking your aunt to a craft store to buy supplies. Between visits, stay in communication with your aunt. Call her regularly and send her letters or cards in the mail. Consider collaborating with other family members or friends to organize regular visits or outings with your aunt, which can provide her with social interaction and companionship.
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