Q. As I sit down to plan our family reunion, I find myself filled with a mix of excitement and apprehension. It’s been years since we’ve all come together under one roof. I want to ensure that this reunion is not only memorable but also inclusive and enjoyable for everyone, especially our elderly family members.
One of my primary concerns is how to prepare and accommodate our elderly relatives, some of whom have specific needs or health issues. For example, my beloved aunt has been showing signs of early dementia and I want to ensure she feels comfortable and supported throughout the gathering.
In addition to addressing the needs of our elderly relatives, I’m also thinking about the activities and entertainment options for the reunion. I want to ensure there’s something for everyone to enjoy, from the youngest children to the oldest adults. However, I’m mindful that some activities may be more suitable than others for our elderly family members, especially those with mobility issues or cognitive impairments.
Before I make any more plans, I’m seeking guidance on how to ensure this is a successful reunion and appreciate any recommendations you can provide.
A. Your dedication to creating a memorable and inclusive family reunion is truly admirable. You’ve been putting a lot of thought and effort into ensuring that all family members feel valued, especially those with specific needs or health concerns.
I suggest you start by finding an accommodating venue if you haven’t already. While most family reunions happen outdoors at a park, depending on the time of year and location, such locations can be challenging for older relatives. Between the sounds of nature and kids yelling at the playground, open spaces outdoors make it very challenging for older adults to hear and engage in conversation. Consider a venue that allows you to be indoors, and that offers indoor restrooms. Also, look for a venue with easy accessibility, such as ramps and elevators.
As you prepare to set up the room on the day of the reunion, ensure you leave plenty of space for elderly relatives to navigate around the room with their walkers or canes. Place toys or sporting equipment for the children away from the common pathways to avoid tripping hazards. You may consider reserving tables at the front of the room for your elderly relatives so they can easily access the food and restrooms.
Regarding your aunt with early stages of dementia, ask another family member she’s familiar and comfortable with to be a guide for her. You may want to have an album of family photos she can browse to help prompt conversation. If she begins to feel agitated, suggest a walk with a family member or find a quiet space she can retreat to for a break.
As far as activities go, opt for seated games or activities that encourage social interaction and reminiscing. Create a large family tree on a poster board or butcher paper and encourage family members to complete their branch. This can help foster connection and conversation. Ask couples to bring a wedding photo to display or find a way to show old family videos. You may even consider setting up a photo booth area with props to encourage unique family photos. For the kids, you can never go wrong with coloring books and crayons, or sidewalk chalk and bubbles they can enjoy outdoors.
Wishing you the best of luck as you plan your family reunion. May it be a joyful celebration of love, connection, and togetherness for your entire family.
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