Q. Iām a recently retired widow in my late sixties, and I want to make some positive changes this spring. Now that the warmer weather is here, I feel a renewed sense of energy and a real desire to become more social, especially after a lonely winter.
In the past, my social life was much easier to navigate. I met people through my childrenās school activities and sporting events, and I also had a wonderful social network through my work. However, now that my children are grown and Iām retired, Iāve found it more challenging to stay connected. Iām missing that sense of community, and Iām ready to change that.
Iām seeking advice on how to begin being more social and putting myself out there again. Iād love some practical tips for meeting people and making new friends in this stage of life. Iām open to anything that could help me start feeling more connected.
A. Thank you for your honest letter. I can already feel your excitement about spring! Itās wonderful that youāre ready to put yourself out there and reconnect with others. Your willingness to try anything is a positive sign that youāll soon find yourself surrounded by new friends.
Itās normal to feel isolated in this season of life. The good news is there are plenty of ways to meet new people and build meaningful relationships at any stage, and spring is the perfect time to start.
Here are a few ideas to help you get started:
Start by joining local groups or clubs that interest you. Many communities have clubs specifically for older adults. Explore events and programs at your local library, senior center, or recreational center. Whether itās book clubs, art classes, or gardening groups, youāll find like-minded people who are open to making new friends.
Another suggestion is volunteering, which is a great way to give back and meet others. Look for opportunities at local food banks, animal shelters, or community centers. Volunteering often brings people together with shared values and can provide a safe way to break the ice and get to know others.
As the weather warms up, take advantage of outdoor events in your community. Look for opportunities to connect at outdoor concerts, farmersā markets, or neighborhood clean-up days. Donāt be afraid to strike up a conversation with someone new. A friendly smile and a simple āHi, how are you?ā can often spark a new friendship.
Finally, technology can help you make new connections. If youāre open to it, consider joining online communities, especially through social media. Many neighborhoods have Facebook groups where you can learn about events and connect with others. You could even ask if any other older adults would be interested in meeting up for a casual walk. Just be cautious when meeting people youāve only connected with online. Itās a good idea to meet in a public place or bring a friend until you feel comfortable. Trust your instincts and back away if something feels off. Your safety and comfort should always come first.
I know it can be tough to make the first move but trust me, there are people out there just waiting to meet someone like you. Making new friends takes time, but the key is to stay open and patient.
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