I celebrated my 70th birthday this year. Leading up to it, I’ve taken drastic steps to get my health back on track. I’ve lost over 40 pounds this year. I exercise regularly. I no longer need to take my blood pressure medication and have reduced my risk for type 2 diabetes. I feel amazing, even at my age. However, I’m concerned about the holiday season sabotaging my healthy lifestyle.

It has been a long-standing tradition that we all gather for Christmas dinner. Last year, we forwent this tradition considering the COVID pandemic. This year, however, many are planning to participate. My elderly parents have hosted Christmas dinner for this group since my siblings and I moved out of their home as adults. As I was helping my mom make plans for Christmas, I sensed she was feeling stressed and anxious.

My wife of 51 years is battling cancer. She was in remission for a couple of years, but the cancer has come back in full force. While she hasn’t said she’s ready to give up her fight with cancer, her current treatment plan has taken a toll on her entire personhood. She’s exhausted, emotional, and losing weight. Caring for her has become a burden for our adult children and me.