My husband recently had a health scare. We’re both in our mid-60s and have had few health concerns until recently. During my husband’s annual dermatologist appointment, where his doctor found a small bump on his ear. A biopsy confirmed it was skin cancer. Fortunately, it was diagnosed as basal cell carcinoma, and he had it removed a week ago. His doctor said that it’s common to find growths on ears, especially in men prone to wearing baseball caps. These hats protect their scalps but offer no UV protection for their ears. My husband wears sunscreen but often neglects to put it on his ears.

‘m writing about my father who is approaching his 90th birthday. He is my mother’s primary caregiver, who’s in her mid-eighties and has early-stage dementia. They live in a single-family home. I’m fortunate to live nearby and pop in often to visit. They also come to our home for dinner regularly. While he’s in relatively good health, I’m growing concerned about his driving ability. He doesn’t drive too far and seems to have set his own limits (such as not driving at night). However, I’m not sure how long he should continue driving, even locally.

I’m concerned about my mother-in-law. She’s in her mid-seventies, lives alone, and is still independent. However, the past few times I’ve stopped by to visit, she’s seemed more stressed than usual. We usually get together for lunch during the week, but she’s backed out four of the five times we’ve made plans.